When we don't see grief as a problem to be solved, but instead as an experience to be supported, loved and witnessed-then we can really talk about what helps. When we stand on the same ground together, our words and actions can be truly supportive and useful.

Megan Devine

When someone dies, you do not get over your grief by FORGETTING, you get through your grief by REMEMBERING.

Author Unknown

At times my grief overwhelms me and I weep bitterly, so great is my loss. Please do not turn away or tell me to move on with my life. I must embrace my pain before I can begin to heal. Companion me through my tears and sit with me in loving silence. Honor where I am in my journey, not where you think I should be

Jill B. Englar

If you don't grieve the losses in your life, you get stuck at that stage.

Rick Warren

On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that is pretty good

Angie Cartwright

When sitting with your grieving friend it is ok to not know what to do or say. The silence is your commitment to being a good listener, and that my friend is beautiful.

Angie Cartwright

There is no grief like the grief that does not speak.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million, empty words.

Thema Davis

Therefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.

2 Corinthians 5:17

The pleasure of remembering had been taken from me, because there was no longer anyone to remember with. It felt like losing your co-rememberer meant losing the memory itself, as if the things we had done were less real and important than they had been hours before.

John Green

Hang On, Pain Ends. You have the strength you need to get through this.

Michael Josephson

And can it be that in a world so full and busy the loss of one creature makes a void so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of eternity call fill it up.

Charles Dickens

When the world says give up, hope whispers: try one more time.

Author Unknown

You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

Christopher Columbus

Ships in the harbor are safe, but that is not what ships are built for.

John Shedd

HOPE. Sometimes that's all you have when you have nothing else. If you have it, you have everything.

Author Unknown

Grief is NOT a disorder, a disease or sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve

Earl Grollman

Everyone grieves in different ways. For some, it could take longer or shorter. I do know it never disappears. An ember still smolders inside me. Most days, I do not notice it, but out of the blue, it will flare to life.

Maria V. Snyder

The journey of grief can seem bleak and lonely. Look in front of you: there are others encouraging you and guiding you. Look beside you: there are others on the same journey. Look behind you: there are others encouraged by you. We are not alone in this journey.

Author Unknown

When the one you share your life with dies, they die in a million different ways. They aren't just missing from the life you had. They are missing from all the life that is yet to come.

Author Unknown

When we don't see grief as a problem to be solved, but instead as an experience to be supported, loved and witnessed-then we can really talk about what helps. When we stand on the same ground together, our words and actions can be truly supportive and useful.

Megan Devine

When someone dies, you do not get over your grief by FORGETTING, you get through your grief by REMEMBERING.

Aurthor Unknown

At times my grief overwhelms me and I weep bitterly, so great is my loss. Please do not turn away or tell me to move on with my life. I must embrace my pain before I can begin to heal. Companion me through my tears and sit with me in loving silence. Honor where I am in my journey, not where you think I should be.

Jill B. Englar

If you don't grieve the losses in your life, you get stuck at that stage.

Rick Warren

On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that is pretty good.

Author unknown

There is no grief like the grief that does not speak.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million, empty words.

Thelma Davis

The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.

Author Unknown

The times when I miss you most is: ALL THE TIME.

Author Unknown

Grief is not just a series of events, stages, or timelines. Our society places enormous pressure on us to get through grief. But how long do you grieve for a husband of fifty years, a teenager killed in a car accident, a four year-old child: a year? Five years? Forever? The loss happens in time, in fact in a moment but its aftermath lasts a lifetime.

Elisabeth Kubler Ross

When the one you share your life with dies, the die in a million different ways. They aren't just missing from the life you had. They are missing from all the life that is yet to come.

Author Unknown

Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many

Author Unknown

When we don't see grief as a problem to be solved, but instead as an experience to be supported, loved and witnessed-then we can really talk about what helps. When we stand on the same ground together, our words and actions can be truly supportive and useful.

Megan Devine

When someone dies, you do not get over your grief by FORGETTING, you get through your grief by REMEMBERING

Author Unknown

At times my grief overwhelms me and I weep bitterly, so great is my loss. Please don not turn away or tell me to move on with my life. I must embrace my pain before I can begin to heal. Companion me through my tears and sit with me in loving silence. Honor where I am in my journey, not where you think I should be

Jill B. Englar

If you don't grieve the losses in your life, you get stuck at that stage

Rick Warren

On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that is pretty good

Author Unknown

When sitting with your grieving friend it is ok to not know what to do or say. The silence is your commitment to being a listener, and that my friend is beautiful

Angie Cartwright

There is no grief like the grief that does not speak

Henery Wadsworth

When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million, empty words.

Thema Davis

The pleasure of remembering had been taken from me, because there was no longer anyone to remember with. It felt like losing your co-rememberer meant losing the memory itself, as if the things we had done were less real and important than they had been hours before.

John Green

Hang on, pain ends. You have the strength you need to get through this

Michael Josephson

And can it be that in a world so full and busy the loss of one creature makes a void so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of eternity call fill it up.

Charles Dickens

When the world says give up, hope whispers: try one more time.

Author Unknown

No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear.

C.S. Lewis

What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.

Helen Keller

Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.

Leo Tolstoy

And can it be that in a world so full and busy the loss of one creature makes a void so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of eternity can fill it up!

Charles Dickens

Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o'er wrought heart and bids it break.

William Shakespeare

To weep is to make less the depth of grief.

William Shakespeare

The pleasure of remembering had been taken from me, because there was no longer anyone to remember with. It felt like losing your co-rememberer meant losing the memory itself, as if the things we had done were less real and important than they had been hours before.

John Green

Hang on, pain ends. You have the strength you need to get through this

Michael Josephson

And can it be that in a world so full and busy the loss of one creature makes a void so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of eternity call fill it up.

Charles Dickens

When the world says give up, hope whispers :try it one more time.

Author Unknown

Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.

Vicki Harrison

You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore

Christopher Columbus

Ships in harbour are safe, but that is not what ships are built for.

John Shedd

HOPE. Sometimes that's all you have when you have nothing else. If you have it, you have everything.

Author Unknown

Grief is NOT a disorder, a disease or sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve

Earl Grollman

Everyone grieves in different ways. For some, it could take longer or shorter. I do know it never disappears. An ember still smolders inside me. Most days, I do not notice it, but out of the blue, It will flare to life.

Maria V. Snyder

The journey of grief can seem bleak and lonely. Look in front of you :there are others encouraging you and guiding you. Look beside you : there are others on the same journey. Look behind you : there are others encouraged by you. We are not alone in this journey.

Author Unknown

The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.

Author Unknown

The times when I miss you most is: ALL THE TIME.

Author Unknown

Grief is not just a series of events, stages, or timelines. Our society places enormous pressure on us to get through grief. But how long do you grieve for a husband of fifty years, a teenager killed in a car accident, a four year-old child: a year? Five years? Forever? The loss happens in time, in fact in a moment but its aftermath lasts a lifetime.

Elisabeth Kubler Ross

When the one you share your life with dies, the die in a million different ways. They aren't just missing from the life you had. They are missing from all the life that is yet to come.

Author Unknown

Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many

Author Unknown

When we don't see grief as a problem to be solved, but instead as an experience to be supported, loved and witnessed-then we can really talk about what helps. When we stand on the same ground together, our words and actions can be truly supportive and useful.

Megan Devine

When someone dies, you do not get over your grief by FORGETTING, you get through your grief by REMEMBERING

Author Unknown

At times my grief overwhelms me and I weep bitterly, so great is my loss. Please don not turn away or tell me to move on with my life. I must embrace my pain before I can begin to heal. Companion me through my tears and sit with me in loving silence. Honor where I am in my journey, not where you think I should be

Jill B. Englar

If you don't grieve the losses in your life, you get stuck at that stage

Rick Warren

On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that is pretty good

Author Unknown

When sitting with your grieving friend it is ok to not know what to do or say. The silence is your commitment to being a listener, and that my friend is beautiful

Angie Cartwright

There is no grief like the grief that does not speak

Henery Wadsworth Longfellow

When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million, empty words.

Thema Davis

The pleasure of remembering had been taken from me, because there was no longer anyone to remember with. It felt like losing your co-rememberer meant losing the memory itself, as if the things we had done were less real and important than they had been hours before.

John Green

Hang on, pain ends. You have the strength you need to get through this

Michael Josephson

And can it be that in a world so full and busy the loss of one creature makes a void so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of eternity call fill it up.

Charles Dickens

When the world says give up, hope whispers: try one more time.

Author Unknown

Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.

Vicki Harrison

You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore

Christopher Columbus

Ships in the harbor are safe, but that is not what ships are built for.

John Shedd

HOPE. Sometimes that's all you have when you have nothing else. If you have it, you have everything.

Author Unknown

Grief is NOT a disorder, a disease or sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve

Earl Grollman

Everyone grieves in different ways. For some, it could take longer or shorter. I do know it never disappears. An ember still solders inside me. Most days, I do not notice it, but out of the blue, It will flare to life.

Maria V. Snyder

The journey of grief can seem bleak and lonely. Look in front of you: there are others encouraging you and guiding you. Look beside you: there are others on the same journey. Look behind you: there are others encouraged by you. We are not alone in this journey.

Author Unknown

The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.

Author Unknown

The times when I miss you most is: ALL THE TIME.

Author Unknown

Grief is not just a series of events, stages, or timelines. Our society places enormous pressure on us to get through grief. But how long do you grieve for a husband of fifty years, a teenager killed in a car accident, a four year-old child: a year? Five years? Forever? The loss happens in time, in fact in a moment but its aftermath lasts a lifetime.

Elisabeth Kubler Ross

When the one you share your life with dies, the die in a million different ways. They aren't just missing from the life you had. They are missing from all the life that is yet to come.

Author Unknown

Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many

Author Unknown

When we don't see grief as a problem to be solved, but instead as an experience to be supported, loved and witnessed-then we can really talk about what helps. When we stand on the same ground together, our words and actions can be truly supportive and useful.

Megan Devine

When someone dies, you do not get over your grief by FORGETTING, you get through your grief by REMEMBERING

Author Unknown

At times my grief overwhelms me and I weep bitterly, so great is my loss. Please do not turn away or tell me to move on with my life. I must embrace my pain before I can begin to heal. Companion me through my tears and sit with me in loving silence. Honor where I am in my journey, not where you think I should be

Jill B. Englar

If you don't grieve the losses in your life, you get stuck at that stage

Rick Warren

When sitting with your grieving friend it is ok to not know what to do or say. The silence is your commitment to being a listener, and that my friend is beautiful

Angie Cartwright

There is no grief like the grief that does not speak.

Henery Wadsworth Longfellow

When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million, empty words.

Thema Davis

Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.

Vicki Harrison

You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

Christopher Columbus

Ships in the harbor are safe, but that is not what ships are built for.

John Shedd

HOPE. Sometimes that's all you have when you have nothing else. If you have it, you have everything.

Author Unknown

Grief is NOT a disorder, a disease or sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve.

Earl Grollman

Everyone grieves in different ways. For some, it could take longer or shorter. I do know it never disappears. An ember still smolders inside me. Most days, I do not notice it, but out of the blue, it will flare to life.

Maria V. Snyder

The journey of grief can seem bleak and lonely. Look in front of you: there are others encouraging you and guiding you. Look beside you: there are others on the same journey. Look behind you: there are others encouraged by you. We are not alone in this journey.

Author Unknown

The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.

Author Unknown

The times when I miss you most is: ALL THE TIME.

Author Unknown

Grief is not just a series of events, stages, or timelines. Our society places enormous pressure on us to get through grief. But how long do you grieve for a husband of fifty years, a teenager killed in a car accident, a four year-old child: a year? Five years? Forever? The loss happens in time, in fact in a moment but its aftermath lasts a lifetime.

Elisabeth Kubler Ross

When the one you share your life with dies, they die in a million different ways. They aren't just missing from the life you had. They are missing from all the life that is yet to come.

Author Unknown

Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many

Author Unknown

When we don't see grief as a problem to be solved, but instead as an experience to be supported, loved and witnessed-then we can really talk about what helps. When we stand on the same ground together, our words and actions can be truly supportive and useful.

Megan Devine

When someone dies, you do not get over your grief by FORGETTING, you get through your grief by REMEMBERING

Author Unknown

At times my grief overwhelms me and I weep bitterly, so great is my loss. Please do not turn away or tell me to move on with my life. I must embrace my pain before I can begin to heal. Companion me through my tears and sit with me in loving silence. Honor where I am in my journey, not where you think I should be

Jill B. Englar

If you don't grieve the losses in your life, you get stuck at that stage

Rick Warren

On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that is pretty good

Author Unknown

When sitting with your grieving friend it is ok to not know what to do or say. The silence is your commitment to being a good listener, and that my friend is beautiful.

Angie Cartwright

There is no grief like the grief that does not speak

Henery Wadsworth Longfellow

When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million, empty words.

Thema Davis

Therefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.

2 Corinthians 5:17

And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.

Romans 8:26

My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow Me; and I give eternal life to them, and they shall never perish; and no one shall snatch them out of My hand.

John 10:26-27

The Thief comes only to steal, and kill, and destroy; I came that they might have life, and might have it abundantly.

John 10:10

Now may the God of all hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 15:13

For not one of us lives for himself, and not one dies for himself; for if we live, we live for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; therefore whether we live or die, we are the Lord's.

Romans 14:7-8

Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Romans 12: 15

I am telling the truth in Christ, I am not lying, my conscience bearing me witness in the Holy Spirit, that I have great sorrow and unceasing grief in my heart.

Romans 9: 1-2

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8: 38-39

For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one also hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.

Romans 8: 24-25

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Romans 8: 28

And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.

Romans 8: 26

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,

Romans 9: 1-2

I am telling the truth in Christ, I am not lying, my conscience bearing me witness in the Holy Spirit, that I have great sorrow and unceasing grief in my heart.

Romans 9: 1-2

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8: 38-39

For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one also hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.

Romans 8: 24-25

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Romans 8: 28

And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.

Romans 8: 26

The Lord protects the strangers; He supports the fatherless and the widow,

Psalm 146:9

How blessed is he whose help is the God of Jacob, Whose hope is in the Lord his God,

Psalm 146:5

Because I delivered the poor who cried for help, And the orphan who had no helper.13"The blessing of the one ready to perish came upon me, And I made the widow's heart sing for joy.

Job 29:12-13

Now she who is a widow indeed and who has been left alone, has fixed her hope on God and continues in entreaties and prayers night and day.

1 Timothy 5:5

Make me to hear joy and gladness, Let the bones which You have broken rejoice.

Psalms 51:8

Pure and undefiled religion in the sight of our God and Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their distress, and to keep oneself unstained by the world.

James 1:27

Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.

James 1:12

2Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, 3knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.

James 1:2-3

For You have been my help, And in the shadow of Your wings I sing for joy.

Psalm 63:7

These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full.

John 15:11

For God is my witness, how I long for you all with the affection of Christ Jesus.

Philippians 1:8

I thank my God in all my remembrance of you,

Philippians 1:3

Put on the full armor of God, that you may be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.

Ephesians 6:11

But if we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; or if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which is effective in the patient enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer; and our hope for you is firmly grounded, knowing that as you are sharers of our sufferings, so also you are sharers of our comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:6-7

For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ.

2 Corinthians 1:5

Who comforts us in all our affliction so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

2 Corinthians 1:4

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:3

Now the God of peace be with you all. Amen.

Romans 15:33

Now may the God of all hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 15:13

For not one of us lives for himself, and not one dies for himself; for if we live, we live for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; therefore whether we live or die, we are the Lord's.

Romans 14:7-8

Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Romans 12: 15

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,

Romans 12: 10-12

I am telling the truth in Christ, I am not lying, my conscience bearing me witness in the Holy Spirit, that I have great sorrow and unceasing grief in my heart.

Romans 9: 1-2

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8: 38-39

For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one also hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.

Romans 8: 24-25

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Romans 8: 28

And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words;

Romans 8: 26

Jesus wept.

John 11: 35

Now the Lord is the spirit; and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.

2 Corinthians 17

Having therefore such a hope, we use great boldness in our speech,

2 Corinthians 3:12

So that on the contrary you should rather forgive and comfort him, lest somehow such a one be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow. Wherefore I urge you to reaffirm your love for Him.

2 Corinthians 2:7-8

For out of much affliction and anguish of heart I wrote to you with many tears; not that you should be made sorrowful, but that you might know the love which I have especially for you.

2 Corinthians 2:4

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your toil is not in vain in the Lord.

1 Corinthians 15:58

"O death where is you victory? O death where is your sting?"

1 Corinthians 15:55

For God is my witness, how I long for you all with the affection of Christ Jesus.

Philippians 1:8

I thank my God in all my remembrance of you,

Philippians 1:3

Put on the full armor of God, that you may be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.

Ephesians 6:11

But if we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; or if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which is effective in the patient enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer; and our hope for you is firmly grounded, knowing that as you are sharers of our sufferings, so also you are sharers of our comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:6-7

For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ.

2 Corinthians 1:5

Who comforts us in all our affliction so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

2 Corinthians 1:4

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:3

Now the God of peace be with you all. Amen.

Romans 15:33

Now may the God of all hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 15:13

For not one of us lives for himself, and not one dies for himself; for if we live, we live for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; therefore whether we live or die, we are the Lord's.

Romans 14:7-8

Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Romans 12: 15

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,

Romans 12: 10-12

I am telling the truth in Christ, I am not lying, my conscience bearing me witness in the Holy Spirit, that I have great sorrow and unceasing grief in my heart.

Romans 9: 1-2

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8: 38-39

For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one also hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.

Romans 8: 24-25

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Romans 8: 28

And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words;

Romans 8: 26

Jesus wept.

John 11: 35

I am the resurrection and the life; he who believes in Me shall live even if he dies, and everyone who lives and believes in Me shall never die. Do you believe this?

John 11:25-26

My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow Me; and I give eternal life to them, and they shall never perish; and no one shall snatch them out of My hand.

John 10:26-27

The Thief comes only to steal, and kill, and destroy; I came that they might have life, and might have it abundantly

John 10:10

Now may the God of all hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 15:13

For not one of us lives for himself, and not one dies for himself; for if we live, we live for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; therefore whether we live or die, we are the Lord's.

Romans 14:7-8

Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Romans 12: 15

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,

Romans 12: 10-12

I am telling the truth in Christ, I am not lying, my conscience bearing me witness in the Holy Spirit, that I have great sorrow and unceasing grief in my heart.

Romans 9: 1-2

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8: 38-39

For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one also hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.

Romans 8: 24-25

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Romans 8: 28

And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.

Romans 8: 26

While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

2 Corinthians 4:18-19

Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day. For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal eight of glory far beyond all comparison,

2 Corinthians 4:16-17

Now the Lord is the spirit; and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.

2 Corinthians 17

Having therefore such a hope, we use great boldness in our speech,

2 Corinthians 3:12

So that on the contrary you should rather forgive and comfort him, lest somehow such a one be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow. Wherefore I urge you to reaffirm your love for Him.

2 Corinthians 2:7-8

For out of much affliction and anguish of heart I wrote to you with many tears; not that you should be made sorrowful, but that you might know the love which I have especially for you.

2 Corinthians 2:4

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your toil is not in vain in the Lord.

1 Corinthians 15:58

"O death where is you victory? O Death where is your sting?"

1 Corinthians 15:55

For God is my witness, how I long for you all with the affection of Christ Jesus.

Philippians 1:8

I thank my God in all my remembrance of you,

Philippians 1:3

Put on the full armor of God, that you may be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.

Ephesians 6:11

But if we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; or if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which is effective in the patient enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer; and our hope for you is firmly grounded, knowing that as you are sharers of our sufferings, so also you are sharers of our comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:6-7

For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ.

2 Corinthians 1:5

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:3

Now the God of peace be with you all. Amen.

Romans 15:33

Now may the God of all hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 15:13

For not one of us lives for himself, and not one dies for himself; for if we live, we live for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; therefore whether we live or die, we are the Lord's.

Romans 14:7-8

Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Romans 12: 15

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,

Romans 12: 10-12

I am telling the truth in Christ, I am not lying, my conscience bearing me witness in the Holy Spirit, that I have great sorrow and unceasing grief in my heart.

Romans 9: 1-2

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8: 38-39

For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one also hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.

Romans 8: 24-25

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Romans 8: 28

And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words;

Romans 8: 26

Jesus wept.

John 11: 35

I am the resurrection and the life; he who believes in Me shall live even if he dies, and everyone who lives and believes in Me shall never die. Do you believe this?

John 11:25-26

My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow Me; and I give eternal life to them, and they shall never perish; and no one shall snatch them out of My hand.

John 10:26-27

The Thief comes only to steal, and kill, and destroy; I came that they might have life, and might have it abundantly

John 10:10

Now may the God of all hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 15:13

For not one of us lives for himself, and not one dies for himself; for if we live, we live for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; therefore whether we live or die, we are the Lord's.

Romans 14:7-8

Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Romans 12: 15

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,

Romans 12: 10-12

I am telling the truth in Christ, I am not lying, my conscience bearing me witness in the Holy Spirit, that I have great sorrow and unceasing grief in my heart.

Romans 9: 1-2

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8: 38-39

For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one also hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.

Romans 8: 24-25

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Romans 8: 28

And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.

Romans 8: 26

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What is grief work and how do we do it?

  “Working through your grief” is a great catch phrase-but what does it mean?  Most people in grief have such physical manifestations that the thought of ‘working’ through anything is paralyzing.  Many can’t get out of bed much less get to ‘work’. 

  So let’s look at what work is… We call it WORK because it’s hard.  It takes effort. It’s taxing.  We usually don’t want to do it.  It’s something that, given the choice, many would avoid.  It’s physically exhausting and mentally draining.  Many do work because someone else tells them to do something.   Does that sound a little like grief to anyone else?

   The term grief work is appropriate-because for many it is all of the above.   It’s hard and takes effort. It’s taxing and we don’t really want to do it.  If we could, we would avoid it.  It’s physically exhausting and mentally draining.  Some do it because others tell them they should be doing it and ‘getting over it.’ But if we really dug in to grief work—what is it?  A better question may be, what is our desired outcome after having worked through grief?  That could be difficult to verbalize for many.  What is it you want?  You can’t have your loved one back, so aside from that what do you want?   Things cannot go back to how they previously were-realistically.  So what else do you want?

  I think many would say that they want the ache in their chest to resolve.  They want to wake up and not feel the despair and loneliness.  They want to think of their beloved and not weep uncontrollably. They want the socked-in-the- gut feeling to go away.  They want to make more memories with their loved one.  They want the lump in their throat to release. They want their legs to not weigh 200lbs a piece.  They want to WANT to get out of bed-because right now they don’t. They want love. They want peace. They want solace.   And before they can fathom JOY they want the desperate hurt to release, to dissolve, and give way to feelings of peace and tranquility. 

  It is so tempting to stifle grief because it is work.  But it’s more than that… for many the stifling is a coping mechanism.  The mountainous waves of grief threaten to overtake us if we face all of our grief at once, or look straight into the face of grief.  By evading some of our new reality it helps us survive, at least for now.  The realness of what has happened waits just around the corner so if I don’t make the turn…

   To change the way we grieve, maybe we can change our language around grieving.  Instead of grief work maybe it’s a grief journey?  Have you had the opportunity to grieve?  Doesn’t sound like much of a blessing does it...  I’m going to suggest that maybe grieving is a privilege.  It’s a sacred privilege given to those favored enough to have loved another person so completely. 

  By committing to a grief journey, your mind may respond with fear and resistance.  But If you allow the resistance and fear to overpower you, you cut yourself off from the very power that will ultimately aid in healing.  Denial is also a powerful and seductive force, but feeling the feelings of grief allow you stay connected to your deepest self.  Being in touch with your deepest self allows you to access all of the tools you need for healing. 

  When my grandmother was dying in the hospital I took the opportunity to write her a letter telling her everything she meant to me throughout my life.  She insisted I read it to her out loud.  I could barely get out the words through my tears.  After I finished, she very softly but deliberately said, “Your tears are like jewels”.   So it is with you my friend. Your tears are like jewels.  Each tear is precious, and a precious reminder that the love you felt cannot and will not be stifled within you-it is literally bursting out of your soul.  If you are in grief, you are in transformation.  You are new; you are changed; you are reborn.  Don’t turn away from this opportunity for growth.  It is okay to embrace the preciousness of your sadness. 

You're Not Crazy

No you’re not crazy. The idea of death and loss is so surreal that those left behind may be left feeling like they are having an out of body experience.  “I’m here, but why do I feel like I’m numb, just floating through my day?”   Have you ever picked up the phone to call someone only to realize they won’t answer because they died?  I have.  THAT’S surreal.  Someone that was a huge part of my life and someone that I relied on, will no longer be answering my calls.  I can’t say “remember when?” Or ask the answer to the questions I just know that they would know the answer to.  I went on to berate myself for being so dumb as to not realize that the person was gone.  “You seriously picked up the phone?  Ugh-stupid. You were at the funeral were you not??  How do you ‘forget’ someone has died?”

 Well, I’ll tell you how.  The people you love change every aspect of your life.  Your family, your friends, anyone in your circle enters your life and changes you in such a way that you come to depend on them.  They are habit forming, in a wonderful, brilliant, fill-you-up sort of way.  We learn at a very young age who we can depend on, who is safe, and who will care for us.  It strikes at the heart of, well, your heart.   The people in your circle are there because in some area they fulfill a basic need.  You receive from them comfort… opinions… knowledge… love… admiration…a million things. And then when you get these wonderful fill-you-up things you come to depend on it, almost the way you depend on air to breathe.   The only crazy part is that you don’t realize the extreme depth of this reliance until you don’t have it (or them) anymore… and You. Can’t. Breathe.  So what then?

That, my dear grieving friends, is when the work of ‘grief’ begins.  Nobody, and I mean nobody goes willingly into the work of grief.  Any time you are separated from something you love (and it could be a person, a pet, a job, an idea, or even a way of life)…that separation will cause you grief.  The work of grief is an arduous one. It absolutely is work.  It can be an emotional, physical, spiritual, and mental workout that closer resembles a marathon rather than a sprint.  You can fight it, if you want to.  You can dig your heels in and refuse to accept what is. You can blame other people if you want to.  Blame circumstances, and woulda, shoulda, coulda all over the place.  That is your choice in grief.  You get to do it however you want to.  But today I’m going to suggest this… to ‘work’ through grief is not to resist your sadness, your loss, and your despair.  Working through grief does not involve stuffing it so far into your soul that you manage to turn the tear ducts off and “get back to normal”.  I’m going to suggest that ‘normal’ doesn’t exist for you anymore--at least not the old normal.  Also know that as long as it is stuffed-it is still there. It will resurface, usually in ways that are unexpected, unwelcomed and sometimes overwhelming.

But what if you surrendered?  You don’t have to like it, but what if you simply accepted what is and surrendered to the fact that you are in this place? This is your life now.  I know some of you are saying-“But I don’t want to!!”  And that’s okay, that is where you are for now.   Others are saying “but I have accepted it, I just have no idea how to go forward!” and I love you for that.  THAT is where grief work begins.   I am not flippant about this subject.  It can take many people a long time to get to the place of ‘surrender to what is’.  I’m going to suggest that the length of time it takes you to get to the point of surrender, will directly correlate with the length of time you spend in turmoil.  Looking back at various stages of grieving I have experienced, my surrender finally came when I realized that the events of my life happened exactly according to plan.  Not MY plan, but THE plan. “I JUST DIDN’T KNOW THAT WAS THE PLAN.”  Sometimes I scream those words, sometimes I sob those words, and other times I simply whisper those words.  When you can finally surrender to that idea, that’s when you will start to see that flicker of hope.  The tears can come, the scream of despair can release.  “I just didn’t know that was how the story ended”.  It sounds like bad lyrics from a love song-only now those words might be real to you. So now that you know how it ends, what will you do with that? 

Have mercy… on yourself. Be patient with yourself.  Do not succumb to any sort of timeline imposed by others. If you can’t function, reach out.  If you struggle with suicide, ask for help. Talk. Be quiet. Cry. Sleep. Remember. Choose your recovery. There is no handbook for grieving, no ‘right’ way to do it. Most of all love yourself through the process, be kind to yourself through this process…and breathe.

Is Grief Work?

Confusion.  Numbness.  Despair.  Anxiety.   Fatigue.  Sleeplessness.   Panic.  Irritable.   Dazed.  Mood swings.  Anger.  Rage.  Searching.  Unrest.   Any of this sound familiar to you?   Does it ever feel like someone has tied 200lb weights around your ankles from the moment you get up in the morning?  Do you feel like no matter how much sleep you get you are still tired?  Does it take all the energy you can muster just to put your feet to the floor and attempt another day? 

Unfortunately all of these things (and more), are a part of the grieving process.  Many people have the misconception that grief “just happens” to you, and if you wait long enough, it will eventually pass you by.  What most people don’t understand is that grief IS work.  For some with new grief, the task of getting out of bed is a struggle.  They feel they must save up energy for the mere tasks of the day such as showering or getting something to eat.  Others have gone back to work in an attempt to “get back to normal” or to attempt to be productive, only to find that they sit at their desks for hours unable to concentrate.  As one woman put it, “I was in the middle of a sentence and would forget what I was talking about.  I would leave my desk and forget what I was getting.”    Still others further down the road of grief will feel like they are finally getting themselves together when something simple as a song on the radio will put them down in the ‘the pit’ with a sense of panic that leaves them saying-“surely I’m not back HERE?!”   

The work of grief has no beginning and no end.  I know that’s not that encouraging to those currently experiencing grief… But what if we got rid of the unrealistic guidelines of grieving?  What if there were no timetable, no right way to do it?  Could we begin to realize that grief is an ongoing journey where no one gets an A+ for doing it correctly or within society’s acceptable time frame?   A poll once showed that most people believed that 3 weeks was the acceptable time for someone to recover from a loss.  Three weeks?!  It’s laughable at best.  Everyone you meet has experienced a loss—but there are a million different stages and phases we go through to work through it.  Be encouraged that if you’re reading this and you’ve experienced a loss, you won’t always feel the way you feel right now.  Grief is work, and there is HOPE.    

When we don't see grief as a problem to be solved, but instead as an experience to be supported, loved and witnessed-then we can really talk about what helps. When we stand on the same ground together, our words and actions can be truly supportive and useful.

-Megan Devine

And in the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.

-Romans 8:26